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Signs of a Midlife Transformation:
This article is an introduction and a list of signs to help identify midlife crisis for yourself or someone you love.
I help many people work through Mid Life Crisis by guiding the process to become a time of transformation. Be aware this event doesn't have to become a crisis. This should be a time of life to embrace change to become something greater. Don't let this be a fear driven event, instead follow inner inspiration to make life better.
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I am often asked for a list of signs to indicate when a person is experiencing a midlife crisis. No one symptom or sign exists to absolutely define a midlife crisis. Instead the experience is a combination of feelings, events and body changes that indicate a transformation is at hand. The final proof often occurs in retrospect after a person accepts they have changed and comes to terms with new life patterns. |
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The truest indicators are the signs that illustrate drastic lifestyle changes. Typically
it will be friends and co-workers who diagnose the Midlife Crisis before you even
realize it. In fact: just having someone point out you are in a crisis can be enough
stress to trip a person into actually having a crisis. |
The following is a list of symptoms that illustrate how defining a mid life crisis is truly relative to the person experiencing the changes.
- Looking into the mirror and you no longer recognize yourself.
- Desiring to quit a good job.
- Unexplained bouts of depression when doing tasks that used to make you happy.
- Changing or investigating new religions, churches or new age philosophy.
- Change of habits. Activities which used to bring pleasure now are boring. Unable to complete or concentrate on tasks which used to be easy.
- It feels good to get hurt.
- Wanting to run away from everything.
- A desire to get into physical shape.
- Irritability or unexpected anger.
- Change in allergies.
- Desire for physical -Free Flowing- movement
(Running, Biking, Dance, Fast red sports cars, Sky diving, etc).
- Exploring new musical tastes.
- Sudden desire to learn how to play an instrument.
- Sudden interest in drawing, painting, writing books or poetry.
- Shifting sleep patterns (Typically to less).
- Thinking about death, wondering about the nature of death.
- Changes to the balance of vitamins you take. Or taking dietary supplements for the purposes of extending life.
- Extreme changes to what you eat.
- Excessively buying new clothes and taking more time to look good.
- Hair changes. (Natural changes in thickness, luster, color or Assisted changes in
dying hair suddenly or shaving your head bald)
- A desire to surround yourself with different settings.
- Hanging out with a different generation as their energy and ideas stimulate you.
- Restarting things, which you dropped 20 years earlier.
- Upset at where society is going. Experience a desire to change the world for the better.
- Feeling trapped or tied down by fiscal responsibilities.
- Leaving (Mentally or Physically) family or feeling trapped in current family relationships.
- A desire to teach others or become a healer.
- Desiring a simple life.
- Excessively looking back to one's childhood.
- Playing again just to play!
- Keep re-asking yourself: "Where am I going with my life?"
- Getting fixated on new "wonder" solutions to problems.
- Recently experiencing something extremely stressful. Stress can trigger a Midlife
transformation. Some examples include: Changing Jobs, Divorce, Death
of someone close, Chemical/Toxic exposure upon the body or experiencing a
major illness.
- Doing things that get you into trouble when it surprises everyone as being out of
character.
- Someone unexpectedly exclaims: "You are going through a midlife crisis!"
A Midlife crisis is often the attempt to restart life
to better fit a person's heart. Due to existing personal commitments, it often isn't
easy to self resolve the inner conflict a person's feels. As a result many times
a person in mid life crisis will act confused or lost while trying to sort out the
contradictions they feel and now have in their life.
Most often a Midlife Crisis is defined well into the process of change. This is
becuase it becomes most visible after a drastic shift's in one's nature. However,
the process often has started long before the visible symptoms appear. It's possible
to aid a person to discover how to define
life to fit better to what makes them
content and happy. Care does need to be taken as often times a person in midlife
crisis will feel trapped and in a corner without options.Experiencing a midlife crisis is not about curing a set of symptoms. It's about shifting life in a way to better fit where the person's spirit yearns to be. A midlife crisis is a very natural biological and psychological process of a person maturing. While some of the symptoms might indicate a process opposite of maturing: at times a person needs to step backwards in order to move forward.
Everyone evolves within their life as they get older. The truest resolution to crisis is learning to embrace the mind, body and spirit as a single whole in order to flow with the needs of living. Modern western lifestyles are based upon chasing dollars and goals rather than supporting personal truth. This is one of many reasons why defining midlife transformation is difficult and often happens after the change. People are so focused looking forward that they forget to embrace living to their true internal personal needs in the now.
People experiencing midlife crisis often feel separated, misunderstood or alone. I offer a counseling practice as a helping hand. A little outside assistance is often the defining difference between suffering in a crisis versus discovering true transformation. The bigger truth when in midlife crisis is that you are not alone. Many other people have worked their way through this process and I have helped many people find happiness in this change. The secret is taking the time to listen to oneself, sort out the contradictions and then transform one's life step by step in a kind manner.
Namaste
Casey
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